If domestic and family violence happens in your home just remember it is not your fault and you are not alone.
The most important thing you can do is make sure you are safe and NEVER try to get in the middle or stop the fighting because you could get hurt.
If domestic and family violence happens at home you might be having all these feelings that don’t make sense. You may feel frightened and confused, ashamed and angry, worried or anxious, sad and disappointed or scared and angry. It is normal to feel like this. Everyone has different feelings so you may feel different about what is going on at home then what your brothers or sisters may feel. This is OK. It is normal to feel different.
There are many feelings and changes that could be happening to you.
- Have headaches or tummy aches
- Have troubles at school with learning or friends
- Have bad dreams (which feel so real)
- Worry about your family
- Feel like something bad is going to happen to you or your family
- Try to protect your brothers and sisters when the fighting is happening.
- Wish you had a ‘normal’ family
- Wish the fighting would stop
Just remember violence at home is NEVER your fault, even if they are arguing about you or your brothers and sisters. There is nothing you can do that can cause an adult to be violent towards other people. You have the right to feel safe in your own home.
What you can do if there is a fight in your home:
- Leave the room where the arguing or violence is happening
- Go somewhere you feel safe like your bedroom or outside to hide and wait there until it is safe to come out
- If you have brothers and sisters try to all stay together in a safe place
- If you have a phone you can call for help – ring the police on 000, or you could ring a neighbour